fix(db): stop watchdog-killed sessions from leaking the SQLite WAL without bound (#1431) (#1490)

A SIGKILL'd process (the #850 liveness watchdog, OOM, a crash) leaves its WAL
on disk; the next session appends to the same file; and nothing ever truncated
it — PASSIVE checkpoints fold frames but keep the file at its high-water mark,
and the one shrinking path (a clean last-connection close) is exactly what a
killed-daemon world never takes. Observed at 25.6 GB on a 5.46 GB DB, growing
until the disk filled.

- journal_size_limit on every connection: resetting checkpoints now clip the
  WAL back to the cap instead of leaving it at its high-water mark.
- healOversizedWal() fired from every DatabaseConnection.open: off-thread
  PASSIVE fold + TRUNCATE when the leftover WAL exceeds the cap (64 MB,
  CODEGRAPH_WAL_HEAL_MB to override). Single-flight per connection with
  bounded retries — concurrent passes defeat each other (each checkpoint sees
  the other as a busy reader).
- Daemon/direct MCP watchdogs now pass progressPaths (DB + WAL), extending the
  #1231 slow-disk deferral to the long-lived server so a healthy daemon mid
  slow statement isn't SIGKILL'd — fewer kills, fewer leaked WALs.
- codegraph status shows WAL size (human + JSON) and warns when it dwarfs the
  DB; daemon.log lines and the watchdog kill notice now carry ISO timestamps
  so kills can be placed in time.

Co-authored-by: Claude Fable 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

src/index.ts

@@ -1220,6 +1220,7 @@ export class CodeGraph {
   getStats(): GraphStats {
     const stats = this.queries.getStats();
     stats.dbSizeBytes = this.db.getSize();
+    stats.walSizeBytes = this.db.getWalSizeBytes();
     return stats;
   }